Hooman's Story

Talk to Yourself

Would you ever go up to a friend and talk to them this way? “You loser, you are never going to amount to anything. You will never find happiness. You always fail at everything you try so why are you even going to waste your time. You are not smart enough to accomplish that. How in the world do you expect to get out of this mess?” Would you ever talk to anyone that way, let alone a friend? Of course you wouldn’t talk to anyone like that. What shocks me is that people consistently talk to themselves in that terrible manner and they wonder why their lives stink. I got news for you Captain Crunch, stinking thinking leads to a stinking life.

The quality of your life is going to depend on the quality of your thoughts. What you think, you will become. If you tell yourself you are a loser, you will always be a loser. Why would you sabotage your chances of achieving something if you are going to tell yourself that you are going to fail before you even try?

Research has shown that the power of positive thinking can make a major difference in the quality of someone’s life. Positive mental thoughts can change the behavior in under-achievers. Positive mental thoughts can lower stress levels. Positive mental thoughts can drastically improve your well being and your health. Positive mental thoughts can give you energy and motivation. Positive mental thoughts can improve someone’s athletic abilities. Positive mental thoughts can help you deal with adversity and challenges better. Do I need to continue or are you sold on the benefits of empowering thoughts? Just remember, the more empowering your thoughts, the more empowered your life will be.

Now if you have been mentally abusing yourself over the years with negative stinking thinking, it is going to be very hard to avoid thinking completely positive all the time. Negative thoughts are going to arise from time to time until you become a master of your thoughts. Don’t worry about it, don’t be extra hard on yourself with more negative stinking thinking. Just catch yourself from any additional negative thinking and change the focus of your thoughts to empowering thoughts. Over time your negative self talk will disappear and you will become a master of your thoughts.

The more you focus on empowering thoughts, the more your life will change for the better. Buddha said, “We are what we think. All that we are arises from within our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make our world.” When you become a master of your thoughts, impossible will no longer be in your vocabulary. The words I can’t will be replaced with I can. You will never fear failure again. You will achieve accomplishments beyond your current capabilities. Change your thoughts and you will change your life. Leave the negative stinking thinking for the rest of the world. You are on a mission to join the best of the world and the quickest way to do that is to become a master of your thoughts.

Hooman Hamzehloui 2010

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When I am out in public and I come across a person who is clearly miserable, I often wonder what could possibly be so wrong in this person’s life that has them acting this way. I ask myself, “Does this person realize how precious life is? Does this person understand that their lives could end within a blink of an eye?” Do you know someone like this? Do you realize how precious life is?

Nothing in the world is as precious as a human life. There are countless ways that one can lose their life in an instant. Look at the earthquake that has destroyed Haiti and ended all those lives. Do you think any of those poor people knew that they were living their last day? Do you think the people who have died in automobile accidents knew that their lives were going to end at the road ahead? Nobody knows when their time is near but that doesn’t mean that we can’t live like we only have 24 hours to live.

You should always live like you only have 24 hours to live. Living like you only have 24 hours to live doesn’t mean that you stop planning for the future. It doesn’t mean that you liquidate all your assets and quit your job. What it means is that your attitude reflects that your life is PRECIOUS. It means that when you wake up in the morning you jump up and clap your hands because YOU ARE ALIVE, YOU ARE ALERT, AND YOU FEEL GREAT. LIving like you have 24 hours to live means you never leave your loved ones without giving them a proper hug or a kiss. It means you don’t go to bed mad at the ones you love. It means you take your time to smell the roses. It means you put a pep in your step.

Life isn’t easy as it is, and it only gets harder when you desire more from it. Its guaranteed to deliver setbacks, defeats, and challenges that will rock you down to your knees. When life knocks you on your ass, what will dwelling in the past do for you? How do you think you will benefit from walking around with a miserable attitude? How is your subconscious mind going to like you asking it 1,000 times a day, “Oh my gosh, WHY DOES THIS ALWAYS HAPPEN TO ME?” Its going to hate it and you are going to hate your life.

The poor people of Haiti have dealt with so much trials and tribulations over their history, but what they are known for is their enduring spirits. They didn’t hate to be alive, they made the most of their lives. They are fighters and that’s why they have always persevered through the most difficult of circumstances. Don’t be your own SPIRIT SNIPER. Don’t dwell in the misery you have experienced in the past because you are destined to repeat. Think about what you can do to make all your dreams come true. Think about what you can do to empower yourself to achieve the results that you desire. Our lives follow our thoughts and our attitudes are everything. We are all created equal but what separates the best of the world, from the rest of the world is our minds and our hearts. Focus on empowering thoughts. Take control of your life now. Never stop believing and always look forward to the amazing promise and possibilities that tomorrow can bring. Always live your life like you only have 24 hours to live.

Hooman Hamzehloui 2009

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Self Destruction or Self Motivation? Pick Your Power

Self destructive behavior is a tool that many people use as a coping mechanism when things get too difficult to handle. Eating disorders, negative self sabotage, alcohol abuse, drug abuse, self-injury and suicide attempts are just a few of the various forms of self destructive behavior.

This self-punishment is usually a response to a personal failure, which may be real or perceived. If these self destructive behaviors are not dealt with immediately, one can be sure that depression will soon become a problem if it hasn’t already been.

The Poison of Depression

Unless you have tasted the poison of depression, its hard to imagine how nasty it is. I would hear about rich and famous people checking into mental hospitals to deal with depression and I would say to myself, “What in the world could be that wrong in these people’s lives that would cause them to be depressed? These people have it all.” Then after I had the very best year in my life when I had the dream life, the dream girl, the dream home, and all the material things that I ever wanted, I too became depressed. I developed a relationship with depression and it wasn’t fun. I also know that I became depressed because I led myself down that path. I was accountable for my depression.

Its Just a Choice

My depression was one of the best things that ever happened to me. It was during that time that I discovered that all the money in the world doesn’t mean a thing if you are not in total control of your thoughts. Before my depression, I was one of the most motivated people that you would ever meet. After all, it had been my dream to be a motivational speaker since I was 22 years old. However, I let one bad situation lead to some negative thoughts. Those negative thoughts led to more damaging negative thoughts. Negative thinking is like a plague. It spreads so fast its unbelievable. Before I knew it, I had become depressed. Then one day it hit me like a ton of bricks. The only person in the world that could fix my depression was me.

Behavior Modification

Buddha said, “No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” The decision to take back control over my life was an empowering one. The more positive I thought, the more empowered I became. Before long I was mentally stronger than I had ever been. I was overcoming obstacles and challenges by the day. My empowerment led to more empowerment. I had total control of my life because I was in total control of my thoughts.

Buddha said, “We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.” Negative thoughts lead to a dark and negative life. The greater your thoughts, the greater your life will be. If you catch yourself being negative remind yourself that negative thoughts = bad feelings. Change your thoughts immediately so you can empower yourself. Whether you are self destructive or self motivated it is entirely up to you. Both behaviors are extremely powerful and can truly effect the quality of your life. Its all up to you to take control of your life. What power are you going to choose? Are you going to choose the dark and damaging power of self destruction? Or are you going to choose the empowering force of self motivation?

Below is 8 Steps to Thought Mastery

1. Reset your mind of everything negative in your life. The past must be forgotten because everyday is a new opportunity to make great things happen.

2. Never think anything negative again. It will seem hard at first so if you catch yourself being negative, simply remind yourself that you are conditioning yourself to be a thought master. Think of something empowering to focus on.

3. Focus on the future and all of the great outcomes that you desire. Focus on your empowering belief system that you are currently creating that is going to allow you to achieve all of the future outcomes you desire. The new version of you will be so much better than the old version of you. Keep giving yourself positive affirmations as much as you can.

4. Visualize everything that you want to do in your life. Your actions will come from your visualization as your thoughts become things. Visualize everything as if it is your current reality.

5. Remind yourself that you don’t believe in failure any more. Failure is just a chance for you to begin again more intelligently. Remember, win or learn, there is no failure.

6. Be flexible in your action plan. If you don’t get the results that you desire, be willing to keep trying different solutions until you achieve your desired outcomes.

7. Condition yourself to believe you can achieve anything you desire. Think big because if you set great expectations then you will have great achievements. Don’t limit your abilities with limited thoughts.

8. Be totally aware of your feelings because bad thoughts = bad feelings. Great thoughts = great feelings. You will find everything in your life getting better because of your awesome new attitude towards life.

After a 22 year study by the University of Pennsylvania called “Learned Optimism” proved that Optimistic People are More Successful in every category of their lives, it is extremely critical that you avoid negative emotions and negative thoughts at any cost.

I wrote an awesome article called “7 Negative Emotions to Avoid” for www.HoomanCan.com on January 14, 2009 that was featured on SelfGrowth.com. SelfGrowth.com is one of the leading motivational websites on the internet. It is by far one of my favorite sites on the internet. Check out “7 Negative Emotions to Avoid” on the link below.  This post about negative emotions is so important that even if you read it the first time around it couldn’t hurt if you read it another 10 – 15 times.

7 Negative Emotions to Avoid

Hooman Hamzehloui 2009

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Whenever a successful person walks into a room you can usually feel their presence immediately when they enter and long after they leave. What is it that makes them stand out from the crowd? Its usually their unforgettable attitude. Successful people will always tell you that a positive mental attitude is essential to achieving any long term success.

When the world economy was great, the world was already filled with more negative attitudes than positive ones. With the economy being in the shape that it is in today, the negative people are desperately looking for more victims to join their poison party movement because misery loves company. A positive mental attitude has never been more important than it is today. How do you stay away from the plague of negativity? It is easier said than done but it is certainly not impossible. Follow these steps and you will be on your way to achieving the success that you desire. 

Essential Steps to Having a Positive Mental Attitude

1. The quality of your life is going to depend on the quality of your thoughts. 

All experiences in your life are shaped by your thoughts. Your life will follow your dominant mental thoughts, therefore you need to constantly think of the most empowering thoughts. Never let a negative thought enter your head. If you only focus on positive and empowering thoughts, you will be in complete control of your feelings and emotions. The success that you desire will be become your reality when your thoughts are empowering. 

2. Stay away from negative individuals because their poisonous attitudes are infectious.

Keep your mind closed to any negative and discouraging influences. This includes any negative and limiting beliefs of your friends, family, co-workers, and acquaintances. Negative people are detrimental to success because they desire to bring down anyone who will join them. Keep them out of sight, out of mind or else you will be infected with their poisonous attitude.

3. Believe you can achieve anything you desire.

Successful people believe they can achieve anything they desire. They get excited when they hear the word impossible because it persistently drives them to make the impossible possible to achieve. Believing in your abilities to achieve no matter what the odds are will always give you the highest and best chance to achieve the results that you desire. It doesn’t matter what others believe you can achieve, it only matters what you believe you can achieve. 

4. Never stop believing in hope because they don’t believe in failure.

There are countless stories of people achieving greatness after failing over and over again. Successful people with positive attitudes don’t believe in failure, they only believe in outcomes. If they don’t get the outcome that they desire they keep changing their approach until they achieve the results that they desire. Whether they fail 100 times or 1,000 times, they believe that success is their only option. Never stop believing, because whether you believe you can or whether you believe you can’t, you are right. If you have hope, you will find a way to make it happen so never stop believing.  

5. Focus on the future and never look back. 

The only thing you can do with the past is to learn from it so you can be better prepared for your future. Focus on the future and all of its possibilities. Focus on the future and all of the results that you desire. You are the creator of your future.

6. Find the positive side of every negative situation.

Life is what you make of it. There is usually something positive that you can discover from every negative situation. It all depends on your outlook. Make sure you are an optimistic person. Look for the positives instead of the negatives. Remember what Martin Luther King said, “Only when it is dark enough can you see the stars.” Difficult times require your best efforts. You must step up and be a leader when the regular people are looking for guidance. Difficulties strengthen the soul so look at the positive side of your pain. What doesn’t break you will make you.

7. Always be aware of opportunities.

Opportunity doesn’t go away, they just goe to someone else. There are so many opportunities out there right now it is crazy. Make sure you take advantage of them because you never know when they will disappear. The greatest risk is the one you don’t take. Think of solutions to people’s problems. It is times like these when ordinary people have become extraordinary people because they create new solutions to people’s problems. You can be the one who achieves this success if you dare to be great. Everything that exists in the world today was started by a thought from someone like you and me. 

8. Never stop having fun in your life. 

Happiness comes from within, discover what makes you happy and bottle it. Life is so amazing when you are having fun. Find a new hobby or rediscover and old one. Work hard but make sure you play just as hard. Have a smile on your face because they are contagious. You are not here for a long time, you are here for a good time. It isn’t a job if you are having a fun time while you do it. 

9. Exercise, exercise, exercise. 

Exercising will make you feel so positive because you know there is so many health benefits behind it. Exercising on a regular basis will let you live a longer and healthier life. Exercising will give you more energy and it will have you feeling great. It will make you look better. I have been exercising like never before and I can’t tell you how awesome the impact has been on me. 

10. Always be striving to help make other people’s lives better. 

You will get everything you want in life if you help others get everything they want in their lives. Helping people in need is an extraordinary feeling. Mentor someone who could use your wisdom because you will impact their life forever. Spend time with people who could use a friend. Volunteer your time and connections for local charities. Help your friends when they need you because helping people is one of life’s most satisfying actions. 

11. Commit yourself to constant and never ending improvement. 

It is times like this when you need to sharpen your skills and knowledge so you can stand out above the rest of the crowd. Never stop learning because you can learn something new everyday. Read at least an hour a day. Listen to motivational cd’s. Learn new skills and knowledge online. This is the information age, use the technology that you have available to you so you can be the best that you can be. Dedicate yourself to constant and never ending improvement. 

12. Successful people surround themselves with people who are empowering. 

Success leaves clues. Learn from the best of the best. Don’t hang around the buzzards of the world. Soar with the eagles that fly high. You should network with achievers so that you are constantly pushing yourself to match their success. Surrounding yourself with achievers will always bring out the best of your abilities. 

13. Constantly ask yourself empowering questions. 

The more empowering questions you ask yourself, the more empowered you will be. Ask yourself empowering questions everyday. When you wake up in the morning ask yourself, “What can I do to achieve greatness today?” “What can I do to get me closer to the success that I desire?” “What can I do to make me a better person?” 

Follow these steps and your positive mental attitude will give you the success that you desire. Never before has a positive attitude been so essential to achieving success. Make your attitude one of your best characteristics and I will see you at the promise land of success.

Hooman Hamzehloui 2009

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People with bad attitudes must be avoided at all cost because it won’t be long before their poison affects you. Poison is very deadly if you consume it but it can be just as deadly if the people you associate with have poisonous attitudes. Avoid anyone that has a poisonous attitude because what they think will affect what you think. Your thoughts are everything because you are what you think. The quality of your thoughts will impact the quality of your life. Great thoughts = great feelings. Poisonous thoughts = horrible feelings. Sometimes we have family or friends who have the worst attitudes in the world. By hanging out with them you are putting yourself in a dangerous position. Their bad thoughts are just as dangerous as if they were your thoughts. Even though you might be the most positive person in the world, if you are around anyone who is negative, it is only a matter of time before it takes its toll out on you. So it is important that you avoid these people like they have the plague. Tell them that you care about them and you think that they should have a better attitude because it will make their lives so much better. If they are set in their negative ways than you have to stay away from them because you don’t have any room for negativity in your life. I can’t tell you how many times I have seen the best attitudes get infected by bad attitudes. You only have time in your life for positive and empowering thoughts. You only have time to associate with people who are going to bring out the best in you. I know that sometimes it is difficult to walk away from someone that you love but if it is bad for your health, you have no choice. If they ask you why you don’t come around them anymore tell them that it is because of their poisonous attitudes. Give them one last chance to change. If they don’t want to change their horrible attitude for you that you no longer will be coming around them anymore. You want to associate with inspiring people who are going to bring out the best of you, not people who are going to bring you down. Take an inventory of the people that you associate with. Get rid of all of the negative people in your life. Now is the time to take total control of your thoughts and actions so you can manifest the life you have always dreamed of.

Hooman Hamzehloui 2008

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What Does Your Forecast Look Like?

What is your attitude like? Are you optimistic or are you pessimistic? Do you focus on the future or do you live in the past? Are you driven by resentment and anger? Or do you forgive so you can forget? What kind of attitude modification will you need? Will it be a drastic change or constant improvement? Focusing on your future with a positive, empowering outlook  will put you on track to the destination of your dreams. See your future brighter than ever with a determination to enjoy your journey day by day, moment by moment, thought by thought. Or you can choose to sabotage your future with a horrible attitude. It is up to you, live in the past? Or Live, learn, and progress towards the future. You are the master of your destiny. You are the creator of your outcomes. Use all of your ambitions and your desires to design your life exactly the way you want it.

Write down specifically how you want future attitude to be? Write down how you will benefit from your future attitude. Do you need to make an attitude adjustment to possess this attitude? What new strength will your future attitude give you?

Hooman Hamzheloui 2008

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Its your life, and its now or never. Hurry up and start enjoying your life now. Do what makes you happy, not what makes others happy. Hurry up and do it, what are you waiting for? I see so many miserable people who do things because it will make someone else happy. It is imperative that you are happy, so you can make the people that you love happy. Making the people that you love happy is what life is all about, but you can only do that if you are feeling awesome and empowered yourself. The people that love you will always understand you, because if they really love you, they will always want what is best for you, and not what is best for them. Stay away from anyone that is negative, and I mean that. Stay away from them like they have the plague, I don’t care if they are in your family or not. Your family can be incredibly encouraging or incredibly demoralizing. So if you know any spirit snipers, get out of their aim immediately.

Take Control Now Or You Will Be Just Like Them

Take control of your life now because happiness comes from within, so it is already inside of you. We all have it inside of us, but it is entirely up to us to bring it out. I have been extremely happy and I have tried being miserable. I can assure you that being extremely happy is way better, take my word on this one. Hurry up and start enjoying every moment of each and every day.  Life is hard by the yard, so break down your life into moments and days. Start being happy today, not tomorrow.  Look at the beauty of your future and all of your desired outcomes. I know if you were to start achieving your desired outcomes now that you would be happier than you ever have been. Imagine how awesome that would make you feel? Do you enjoy feeling awesome and achieving your desired outcomes? If you enjoy feeling awesome and making all of your desired outcomes true, when do you think would be the best time to get started? Now is the time. You are the master of your destiny. You are the creator of your outcomes. By taking total control of your thoughts and actions, you will empower yourself to make anything you want happen. Start taking action now, don’t wait. Moment by moment and day by day, you are the designer of your life. Cherish every moment of every day because life is your stage and it is show time, so light up the stage with your passion. Give life your best performance because the show called life is always going to go on whether you are happy or you are sad. Hurry up and do it because today is the day to make your dreams come true. Hurry up and do it because you never know when time is up. Just remember, today is the day, hurry up and seize it.

Hooman Hamzehloui 2008

www.HoomanCan.com