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Time to Make a Change

As we celebrate the holidays this year and get ready to bring in 2010, now is the perfect time to reflect upon where you are in your life if you haven’t already. Look long and hard at every aspect of your life to discover where you can make some changes and improvements. Sometimes the smallest changes can drastically improve the quality of your life. I don’t care if you are Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey, or Barack Obama because everyone in the world can improve the quality of their lives. Take the time to evaluate yourself honestly and precisely to discover what changes or improvements you could make that would drastically improve the quality of your life?

Approximately 40 to 45% of American adults have at least one or more resolutions each year. Some of the most common resolutions are: The desire to get into better shape. The desire to quit smoking. The desire to have better money management. The desire to have better relationships. How successful are these people? Its ugly.

The following statistics show the fail rates for new year’s resolutions:

• 25% quit the first week
• 29% quit after two weeks
• 36% quit after one month
• 54% quit after 6 months

Over 54% of the people quit just after six months. Are you kidding me? Sometimes it takes years to change something. While these numbers are not promising, research shows that making resolutions is a useful thing to do. People who make new year’s resolutions are ten times more likely to achieve their goals than people who don’t make resolutions. I believe that new years resolutions might as well be called PROCRASTINATION DEADLINES because they give people an excuse to procrastinate on making the changes that they know they need to make. Delaying changes until January 1st instead of at the very moment that you discover that a change is necessary is totally amateurish. I wonder if the procrastination of waiting for the new year to make a change is responsible for these terrible numbers.

I always start on my new year’s resolutions the minute I discover what my desired outcomes are for the new year. Doing it this way allows me to create GOAL MOMENTUM towards achieving my desired goals. I don’t put it off for a later date. I don’t procrastinate until January 1st. I go after it with the fierce urgency of NOW. If you are delaying a change that you need to make, I guarantee you its because you are not ready to make a change. People can talk about one day making a change, but unless they are totally committed to doing whatever it takes to make that change, chances are they will fail miserably.

Most people fail when it comes to making a lasting change. Many people desire to change their lives for the better, but the minute that they face some adversity or difficulties along the way, they usually quit and go back to their old ways. Lets face it, quitting in the face of adversity is always easier than being resilient and doing whatever it takes to succeed. Anyone is capable of making any change they desire. The question is, do they really desire to make a change? If you really want change in your life, you must be the catalyst of your own change, you must realize that the only person in the world that can make that change is you.

Here are 3 steps to making a lasting change. Write down these steps along with your answers in a journal. Review your journal and your desired goals daily until you achieve the results that you desire.

1. Decide exactly what it is that you desire to change. Be very specific. Ask yourself what is stopping you today from making that change? Write down how bad you want to make this change. Write down how hard you are going to work until you make this change. Write down what your reward is going to be when you achieve your desired change.

2. Get massively motivated to change. You have to create as much goal momentum as you can. Creating goal momentum can turn you into a powerful force that is totally focused and obsessed with making the change that you desire.

A. The more pain you link to not changing, the motivation you will have to change. Get yourself to associate massive pain to not changing now. Write down all the negative outcomes that will happen to you if you don’t change now. Write down as many negatives as you can think of. The more the better. Ask yourself, “How will my life be if I don’t make this change now?” Make your pain so intense that you will be terrified of putting off your change. The more compelling “WHY REASONS” you have to change, the more determination and motivation you will have to change.

B. Focus on of all the pleasure you will have in your life when you achieve the change that you desire. Write down as many compelling reasons as you can so that you motivate yourself to make this change. The more reasons you write down, the more inspired you will be to make this change happen. Ask yourself, “How incredible will I feel when I make this change? Who else in my life will benefit from me making this change? What kind of momentum will my change create in my life?” You have to get yourself to realize that your change is an absolute must. One of the best ways to make that change a must is to create a massive amount of urgency relating to why you have to change now. You must be absolutely determined to make this change now. If you are not determined to change now, you will not have enough motivation to change ever.

3. You must believe beyond a shadow of a doubt that you will achieve the change that you desire. You must believe that your change is a must and your only option. You must eliminate failure from your vocabulary. Remember, failure is just an outcome. If you don’t get the outcome you are looking for, you must change your approach until you succeed. You must have a burning desire to succeed pushing your desire to change. You must be willing to give it your absolute best and nothing less. You have to make an unbreakable commitment to yourself that you are not giving up until you succeed because success is your only option.

To change your life, you must fully understand what needs to be changed. Being in denial is like being in disguise. You are only fooling yourself. If you really want change in your life, you must be the catalyst of your own change. Remember, no one can make changes for you. You are on your own. Don’t be your own worst enemy. I know you can achieve anything you desire. Get excited about changing your life NOW. Make your desired change your obsession and it won’t be a matter of if you will be successful, it will only be a matter of when you will be successful. Take your passion and make it happen now.

Hooman Hamzehloui 2009

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With the new year approaching soon, many people will have new hopes, goals, dreams, and desires. The problem is that most people will not take any action towards the manifestation of these ambitions. Why is that these people will think of these new goals, but they will not do anything to make them happen? I would place the blame on their limiting beliefs. They just don’t believe that they can achieve the results that they desire. Most people who are underachievers have a long list of limiting beliefs. Any major personal achievement begins with a change in beliefs. Your beliefs are everything, they have the power to make you or break you.

The important thing to do is to identify any limiting belief that you may have. The best way to do this is to question this belief. Follow these steps to replace your limiting beliefs with empowering beliefs.

1. What is wrong with this belief? List as many reasons as you can.

2. What has this limiting belief prevented me from achieving in the past? What has this belief cost me up to now? How has this belief limited my past success and happiness? List as many reasons as you can. Make it as painful as possible.

3. If I don’t make a change now, what will this belief cost me in the future? List as many reasons as you can. Don’t forget to make it as painful as possible.

4. Visualize the painful consequences that these limiting beliefs will bring you. Make it a very painful visualization. I mean make it nasty. REAL NASTY

5. Decide that enough is enough. You will no longer suffer the consequences of your old limiting beliefs. Our brains are always trying to avoid pain, the more pain we associate to our limiting beliefs, the more empowered we will be to change them.

6. Write down a new empowering belief for every limiting belief you are getting rid of.

7. Reinforce the strength of these new empowering beliefs by visualizing the countless benefits these new beliefs will bring you. Think it, believe it, and then you will see it in your life. The more benefits you associate to these beliefs, the more empowered you will be. Focus on how these new empowering beliefs will change your life. How they will benefit your family and friends.

With an empowering belief system, there is no limit to the outcomes that you can accomplish. The more empowering your beliefs, the more empowered you will be. Take your passion and make it happen.

Hooman Hamzehloui 2009

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Criticism is a Compliment Disguised

Confucius said, “Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbor’s roof when your own doorstep is unclean.” There is so much criticizing, player hating, and dream stealing going on in this world that it is way beyond ridiculous. If these haters and dream stealers would spend that time on their own lives, instead of worried about other people’s lives, they would be much more happier and more successful. Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain, and most fools do. If you want to make your life extraordinary, stop worrying about other people’s lives and start focusing on your own.

Crash Heard Around The World

Tiger Woods crashed his car on 11/27/09, why the story is still in the news is just astonishing. There is so many real and important issues out there that are getting no attention but If you google “Tiger Woods accident” you will get 17,200,000 search results. I am not a fan of golf, but I am a huge Tiger Woods fan because of his passion for being great and his commitment to constant improvement. I have wrote many times about what makes Tiger so great at what he does. Was I disappointed about what he did? Sure I was, for a moment but I am over it because it isn’t my business. What Tiger does in his personal life is between Tiger and his family. If anything, I like him more now because I have realized that he has flaws just like the rest of the world.

See here how the worst night of my life became the defining moment of my life. I bet this situation becomes the defining moment of Tiger’s life. I bet this causes him to become a much better person. Nelson Mandela said, “Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fall.” Everyone in life gets knocked down but life only rewards those who get back up.

Focus on You

The quality of your thoughts are going to drastically affect the quality of your life. Focus your thoughts on how you can empower yourself to become a better person. Focus your thoughts on how you can make a difference in the world. Don’t waste a precious thought on criticizing, hating, or dream stealing. Don’t waste your time or energy worried about the setbacks and failures of other people’s lives. FOCUS ON YOURSELF. Focus on your commitment to constant and never ending personal development. Focus on making the rest of your life the best of your life. Next time you catch yourself wanting to say something negative about anyone, consider these words of wisdom from Dale Carnegie…. ANY FOOL CAN CRITICIZE, CONDEMN, AND COMPLAIN BUT IT TAKES CHARACTER AND SELF CONTROL TO BE UNDERSTANDING AND FORGIVING.

Bless those who curse you because the only thing you should do with your critics and haters is turn them into your MOTIVATORS.

Hooman Hamzehloui 2009

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I weighed 205.8 pounds when I started my Fight Against Fat on 9/23/2009. My goal was to weigh 165 pounds by 1/1/2010. This wasn’t a crazy lose weight fast diet I started. This was a new lifestyle I decided to lead after looking in the mirror and seeing an overweight person that I didn’t recognize.

I was so disgusted with the physique that I had earned myself by eating bad and skipping workouts. I knew that a drastic change was desperately needed. I didn’t have just a “SWEET TOOTH” I had the whole “SWEET MOUTH” I knew some massive, massive action was needed if I wanted to get to my desired weight of 165 pounds by the new year.

I started working out like a possessed man on a mission. I started eating nothing but fish, chicken, steak, vegetables, fruits, nuts, and lots of protein bars. I was eating six small meals a day versus the huge portions I used to pig out on. I stayed absolutely dedicated to my workout routine by exercising 6 days a week. I charted my progress in a workout journal so I knew exactly what I had to do to push myself a little further by the workout.

The results were awesome. I had more energy and motivation than ever before. I was seeing the fat come off as the muscles were slowly growing stronger. I now weigh 181 pounds and I feel great. However, the goal was to hit 165 pounds. I now have 20 days to lose the last 16 pounds. The only way I am going to make this happen is if I get totally focused on the outcome that I desire. It needs to become my obsession. There is no way I am going to fail.

Now is the time for me to add more fuel to my burning desire to succeed. Now is the time to workout harder than I already have. Its the final countdown and I am more focused than ever. As the finish line approaches quickly, I know exactly what I have to do to make this happen. I am going to achieve this. I am going to hit my desired weight of 165 pounds. The picture below is the body I am after. He weighs 155 pounds.

If I lost 25 pounds since 9/23/2009, you can too. Join me as we burn the fat. Join me and take care of your mind, body, and soul. Now is not the time to take the tranquilizing drug of procrastination. Now is the time to take control of your health so you can live long and live strong. Take your passion and make it happen.

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Before and After Photos

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There are many different roads you can take to get to the promise land of success and happiness. The view is just as sensational no matter what road you take. You just want to make sure you get there. Some people are able to achieve their hopes, goals, dreams, and desires while making it look easy. Some people have to overcome countless trials and tribulations before making their dreams come true. Yet the majority of the world will only experience failure and disappointment throughout the most of their lives.

Why are some people able to make their dreams come true while others can’t seem to catch a break?  What is the difference between these people? What separates the people who achieve greatness from those who can’t seem to achieve much at all?

Everyone is created equal, its how we use our minds that makes us great. Your mind can either empower you or your mind can demoralize you. Your mind can be the creator of your destiny or it can be the destroyer of your dreams.

Our lives become incredible when we discover the true power of our minds. All power comes from within you. When you learn how to control that power, you will be in total control of your destiny. Our lives follow our thoughts so if you doubt your abilities to achieve, you are destined to fail. If you think it is impossible, for you it always will be.

All outcomes and experiences in our lives are a direct result of our dominant mental thoughts. If you make achieving your goals the obsession of your thoughts, it won’t be a matter of if you will make it happen, but when you will make it happen. If you focus your thoughts on achieving success, then it will be success you achieve. Focus your thoughts on what you desire and your life will follow.

The quality of your thoughts are everything. If you master your thoughts, you will master your live. Your thoughts towards a situation will determine how that experience effects you. That is why it is critical that you only focus on empowering thoughts. With power and control over your thoughts and actions you will achieve the greatest outcomes of your life. You must remember that you already have the power inside of you to achieve anything you desire. It is up to you to unleash that power. Our future is entirely up to our control because we become what we think. Therefore it is up to us to think exactly what we want to become.

Hooman Hamzehloui 2009

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Amazing Relationships Are Incredibly Empowering And Inspiring

Being in an amazing relationship will help you elevate your life in ways you couldn’t imagine. For those of you who have experienced the incredible empowerment and inspiration that comes from being in an amazing relationship, you know exactly what I am talking about. My life drastically changed when I was involved in an amazing relationship. My income quadrupled. My relationships with my family and friends got better and I became a much better father.

A great relationship can motivate you to achieve a level of greatness that you may not have been previously close to. They are incredibly empowering because they give you so many more “WHY Reasons” that will inspire you to achieve the goals you desire. The more “WHY Reasons” you have in your life, the more inspired you will be to make your dreams come true.

A recent study showed that those people who are in a healthy relationship are in a lot better physical health compared to those who were not in relationship. 9 out of 10 of these people agreed that it is healthier to be in a dynamic and faithful relationship than being alone.

Infidelity is a Major Problem

Notice it said its healthier being in a dynamic and faithful relationship. Being in arelationship where there is infidelity can bring those involved some very severe consequences. Unfortunately Tiger Woods, isn’t the only person in a relationship where infidelity has caused some major pain and suffering to those involved. Recent studies show that 45-55% of married woman and 55-60% of men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during the course of their relationship.

These numbers are disgusting. Why are half of the relationships out there are cheating on each other? Why is this number so damn high? What is so wrong about these relationships that cause the people involved to go elsewhere instead of coming home? They say the cause of this cheating isn’t all about sex. They say the reason that most people will seek intimacy somewhere else is because their emotional needs are not being satisfied at home.

If we Know What The Problem, Then it is up to us to Fix it

If there is a high level of relationships experiencing emptiness and unhappiness, then its entirely up to those involved to make an effort to fix this major problem. I mean who wants to be in a relationship thats empty, and meaningless. I know once you get to that point, its difficult to repair, but definitely not impossible to repair. It takes two people to make an amazing relationship happen. If you are at that point where you are close, but yet so far away from being happy,  one of you may have to start the effort to repair your relationship. This can often inspire your partner along to do the same. Don’t worry about pride when it comes to love. If you still love that person, its definitely worth fighting for. They say its okay to lose your pride over someone you love, but never lose someone you love over your pride.

If most cases of infidelity are caused by the desire to feel emotionally connected and wanted by someone, then it is up to us to work hard on making our partners feel emotionally connected and loved. When you give this connection and love to someone, you are definitely increasing your chances of receiving this connection and love back. Never cheat on your partner no matter what. Walk away from the relationship before you cheat on someone. Just because everyone is doing it doesn’t mean that you have to. Don’t compare yourself to the rest of the world, compare yourself to the best of the world.

These days people are placing a higher value on their careers, their friends, and their hobbies and not enough value on their relationships and with their partners. That is precisely why their relationships are failing. Everything in life needs a balance because if you neglect any of these areas in your life, its just a matter of time before things start to decline and deteriorate. I also believe that if you are going to add a little more to one of these areas in your life, the place to add it in is your relationship because the empowerment and inspiration that you get from an amazing relationship will elevate your life in all those other areas. Behind every amazing person is another amazing person. Make yourself and your relationship amazing by doing everything in your power to make it work. You can never tell your partner enough how important they are to you, or how much you truly love them. Always kiss each other on the way in and on the way out. Follow these few tips and the various other ways to keep your relationship amazing and I will assure you that you will draw an unlimited source of inspiration from your relationship. Love is a very powerful motivator.

Please feel free to comment on some of the things that you have done to make your relationship amazing.

Hooman Hamzehloui 2009

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